13 January 2012

my bridal moment

13 January 2012
image via bhldn.com

so, i had a moment. a full-on bridal moment. i wanted to cry. i panicked. i called my mom.

you see, i've been ignoring this feeling for months that my wedding dress was all wrong. wrong for the venue, wrong for the feel of our wedding, wrong for me. instead of confronting the feeling head-on, i asked for a pep talk from one of my bffs; i tried to convince myself i made a choice and i needed to stick to it. i wasn't going to be that girl who flips out four months before the wedding because she bought the wrong dress.

it wasn't until talking to my friend alex that i realized that not only did i not love my dress, just thinking about it bummed me out. it's not like i was tempting myself with other, newer options: i hadn't been looking at dresses after i got mine, i didn't go to any other bridal salons. i was being good. but still, i couldn't shake that feeling.

so, how did this happen? i didn't follow my own advice. remember this post? it's a little embarrassing to think i tried to give advice when clearly i was in need of some myself! at the bridal salon that day, i had it narrowed down to two dresses. what i didn't share with you is that i really liked one over the other. but my mom really didn't like my favorite. she loved the other one, however. thinking it must be a sign that we both liked a dress (imagine that!), i went with her favorite. we cried, we champagned! BUT i should have chosen the dress that loved. i kept looking back at the pictures we took that day and the gown i should've chosen was looking prettier and prettier to me and i was getting more and more sad i didn't get it.

i didn't know if there was anything i could do. i had a non-refundable wedding dress and wasn't sure if i could order a new one in time. so, i decided to try them both on again and make a decision from there. i made a last minute appointment at macy's and ran over there after work. i had the amazing fortune of having the sweetest consultant help me and the bridal salon all to myself. i spent a good hour trying both dresses on with different accessories options. it was a difficult decision because the dresses are very different and they're both beautiful. but, it was clear in the end that i needed to buy a new dress. so i did!

and i'm so incredibly excited about it!! my new dress comes in one month before the wedding, which is cutting it close, but i don't care. i figure it gives me that much more time to get in kickace shape!

i'm not going to stress about the other dress. i know something will work out. it's brand new and i'm certain it will be some girl's dream dress. if you're interested in purchasing, i'm selling at a discount! e-mail me for details and photos. seriously, it's a gorgeous dress, i just had my heart set on another one.

29 comments:

jillian :: cornflake dreams. said...

good for you! im glad you went with the dress of your dreams and i know you will be such a gorgeous bride! xoxo jillian:: cornflake dreams

Alex {Things That Sparkle} said...

I'm so glad you have your dream dress. I could tell you weren't 100% into the first one, and you have to love it! So excited for you!!! xo

Viviana said...

Wow, reading this is seriously like reading my own emails to my maid of honor! The SAME thing happened to me, but what I did was basically redo the entire dress. I had it altered in so many ways that it was a completely different dress in the end and one that I fell in love with. So glad you were able to get your true dream dress! There's nothing like wearing the "right" one on your day. ;)
xox

Tamra said...

Yay, you have your dress!! You are absolutely right, the other one will work out, someone else will love it. Try selling it on a bridal website. It will sell, it's brand new! Most importantly, you have your dream dress and I'm so excited for you! xoxo

Carly {a simple affair} said...

So happy for you! Great decision to go back and well worth it in the long run to switch! I'm sure you will look stunning on your day!

sampenner said...

What a great story. It's good to hear you went after your heart's choice. I know you will be happy in the long run. :)

XO,

Sam
www.ThePeakofTresChic.com

Susan said...

That's fantastic that you stuck with your emotions and didn't let yourself settle for something that wouldn't make you happy. I'm sure that this new one is beyond gorgeous and that your mom will love it! You've got such a good attitude, I know that everything's going to be smooth sailing for you!

Alexa said...

Wow! Good for you Ashley. That's hard to do, but you need to feel comfortable and happy in your dress. That's super important!

Melissa said...

So glad you went with your heart! There are so many beautiful dresses that you can't really go wrong, but when you know something isn't 100% right, you have to do something about it.

Someone with your fashion sense can't possibly go with a "second-place" dress :) Can't wait to see what you chose!

Sara said...

Good for you! I can't wait to see what you chose!

Deanna Pai said...

So so glad you got the one YOU really wanted! I know I'd probably have the same instinct to go with what my mom loved too, but you're the one getting married. :)

Rachel said...

Good for you! This exact same thing happened to me but I DIDNT switch and I've always wished I had had a different dress on my wedding day!

classiq said...

It's good you've been honest to yourself and finally bought the dress you loved. Your wedding day is such an important moment in your life and you have to be happy about every single detail, especially about the dress. I had mine custom-made, just the way I wanted, but I switched designers two months before the wedding. It was a difficult moment, but I managed and had it ready 3 weeks before the wedding and it was gorgeous. xo

Taylor said...

So glad that you changed your mind and went with the one you knew deep down you really wanted! This same thing happened to my sister.... emotions were flying high, she picked a beautiful dress both my mom and I loved, we too had the champagne giddy moment, and she wasn't even looking at other ones. But then she just knew that it wasn't right and that she got caught up in the moment. In the end - she got a new one and looked gorgeous. It's worth a lost security deposit or going through the effort of selling the first one to be happy on your special day! Congrats I'm sure it is gorgeous!!

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Erika [small shop] said...

A wedding day is most certainly ALL about the bride. So happy to hear that you went for it, because, you will be glow with happiness and feel spectacular in it! It will show, for all your guests and in your photos that you'll have for a lifetime!

April said...

Good for you for changing dresses! Be happy!

Dora said...

I'm so glad to hear that you decided to get the dress of your dreams :)It's your day and you deserve to feel like everything is perfect

Shari said...

that's so great that you went with a choice you love. it should be the one you dream about, not something you settled for. i can't wait to see photos! :)

The Now said...

I'm so happy for you - you deserve to have the dress of your dreams!!!! Cannot WAIT to see pictures, my friend! xoxo

Lena at A Crimson Kiss said...

I'm so sorry you struggled so much with this, but I couldn't be happier that you're feeling joyful and excited about the new gown! I know you'd be beautiful in a paper bag, but you have to pick the dress that makes you light up inside.

Allyson [Mimosas in the Morning] said...

GOOD FOR YOU! It's a day you will never forget, so you should have the dress that makes you feel special! I'm so happy for you that you went with another dress! It must have taken alot of courage to come to that decision!!!

jane said...

SO happy for you !!!!

Julip Made said...

So glad you made the decision to go with the one you truly love! It is your day and you deserve to feel completely comfortable, beautiful, and happy in the dress you wear! Can't wait to see pictures! xo

Courtney B said...

I am SO glad you got the dress that YOU love! Your wedding day should be perfection... and now it will be :) Can't wait to see it!

City Girl Chicago said...

That's so great you now have your dream dress ~ this was also such an inspiring story to hear in person (great meeting you Saturday)! :)

Fashion.MakeUp.LifeStyle said...

You're going to be such gorgeous bride and so glad you went with the dress of your dreams..


<3 Marina
Fashion.MakeUp.LifeStyle

Danielle / Breakfast at Toast + The Everygirl said...

So glad you found the perfect dress! cannot wait to see photos!

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