this morning, alex tweeted this garance dore article and i can't get it off my mind. it's about the parisian approach to engagement and marriage vs. that of new yorkers and the (mis)conception that we americans are materialistic and obsessed with getting engaged, while parisians are more relaxed about marriage and don't care as much about the ring.
fair enough - you only have to look so far to see examples of gross consumerism, where the diamonds only get bigger and the weddings more ostentatious. but i'd like to think that for most of us, a ring isn't a status symbol and getting married isn't about fitting in or showing off.
what i love most about ms. dore's article is her conclusion that americans care so much about engagements and marriages because we are romantics at heart.
where james proposed
judging by my own experience, getting engaged and married is all about the romance. it's about being swept off your feet. it's about having your own personal fairy tale. it's about love.
knowing that i have always loved gazebos and thought them romantic, james took me to the lighted gazebo pictured above on the eve of our 3-year anniversary. he pulled out a chair, blanket, music stand, printed music mounted on fine paper, and his guitar from the trunk of the car.
as i sat down and he spread the blanket across my lap, he didn't say much other than that he was going to sing me a song. he played "question" by the old 97's.
when the song was done, he got down on one knee, looked up at me with shining, clear eyes and with earnestness, told me how much he loved me. how he knew with all his heart that he will never love anyone like he loves me and how much he wanted me to be his wife. and then he pulled the ring box from his pocket, opened it, and asked, "will you marry me?"
i'm pretty sure i said yes. all i remember is looking at him and nodding. and finally he said, "well, go ahead, put it on!"
thinking about it now, and recalling our wedding, makes my heart swell. it makes me think about our love and how lucky i am to have found my prince charming. is that cheesy enough for you? ok, good. so tell me, was your engagement or wedding like a storybook romance? if you're still dreaming about the day, what do you hope it looks like?
my fairy tale | lorenzo de gregorio photography