Blogs across the world show us houses furnished more stylishly than ours, recipes fancier and healthier than ours, and mothers looking perfectly polished and trim, smiling baby in arm, running her own business and managing to cook dinner for her husband and all we're left to do is think, Wow, her life is so perfect. Or the more judgmental, Wow, she must really care about looking perfect.
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We make judgments about how a person's life "must be" based on posts that have been crafted to appeal to a broad audience, but the simple truth is: Blogs are not reality. At least not 100%. And blogs definitely are not diaries. We see a carefully curated fraction of a blogger's life through her blog, not a full view of who she truly is.
Even if a blogger covers tough subjects or the not-so-pretty in life, it's likely still not an accurate representation of how emotional, messy, and chaotic life can be sometimes. Instead of revealing every gory detail, there is a way to reflect on the difficult parts of life in a constructive, eloquent way that focuses on lessons learned. And sometimes, it's just about sharing our story. We are social creatures and simply knowing you're not the only one struggling can be a great comfort.
On the other hand, if a blogger chooses to laugh, to focus on the lovely over the controversial, it is a personal choice she has made for her blog and what she is willing to share. If you want to know how she feels about healthcare reform and gun control, if she volunteers, or how she feels about organized religion in the 21st century, you might be reading the wrong blog and you'll likely have to ask her directly. Some blogs may touch on these topics, but for those that don't, trust there are thoughts, opinions, and special moments that a blogger chooses to keep to herself.
Don't do yourself a disservice and compare your life to what you see on blogs. Similarly, give bloggers credit for having lives that you don't see.